"Why do we focus so intensely on our problems ? What draws us to them ? Why are they so attractive ? They have the magnet power of love : somehow we desire our problems ; we are in love with them much as we want to get rid of them. [...] Problems sustain us - maybe that’s why they don’t go away.
What would a life be without them ? Completely tranquilized and loveless. [...] There is a secret love hiding in each problem."
James Hillman (A blue fire)